PRINTABLE Checklist: Questions to Ask a Pro-Domme During a Vetting Interview

Vetting Tip: How to Make a Powerful First Impression

Use this checklist to review a Dominatrix’s website first.
Check off the items that are already answered there, and write down her responses next to each question. This will help you prepare for your vetting call or email exchange.

During your communication, only ask the questions that weren’t already covered on her site. You can even reference what you found to show initiative.

For example:
“Hello Mistress, I see that you’ve been a Domme for X amount of years, and I noticed your domination style really aligns with what I’m looking for. The information on your site gave me a lot of comfort and confidence that you’d be a great fit for me.”

Doing this shows you’ve done your homework — and that will absolutely impress her.

It demonstrates respect for her time, attention to detail, and serious submissive potential — all of which increase your chances of being accepted.

Always ask respectfully, and honor the Domme’s process and boundaries.
If she took the time to write it on her site — read it first.

It’s not just about the answers — it’s about how she responds.

Does she sound confident, clear, and aligned with your needs? Or irritated, vague, or dismissive?
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Your first conversation with a Dominatrix should be professional and she should NOT be in “domme mode” If she’s irritated or dismissive when you ask these questions during your interview I would find another provider. 

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